https://www.khutbah.info/not-recounting-favors/ All praise is due to Allah the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful, the Most Generous. He gave His servants graces and dispelled calamities from them. He commanded them to be grateful and warned them from denial and misdeeds. And He promised to recompense them for their deeds. So whoever finds good, let him praise Allah, and whoever finds other than that shall not blame but himself. We praise Allah with the praise of the grateful and we seek His forgiveness with the repentance of the repentant. And we ask Him of His great favor. For He is the Most Generous, Most Merciful, Most Beneficent. Allah elevated whom He willed of His servants and made people need them. So he keeps them in in their positions as long as they benefit others. But if they were to withhold, He would take away their graces and transfer them to someone else. And the Messenger ﷺ urged his community to benefit and do good to others. And he ﷺ stated that the most beloved to Allah Almighty are the most beneficial to the people. After servitude to Allah, there is nothing with a sweeter taste, more fulfilling and more joyful than striving in serving, benefiting and fulfilling the needs of others. And it is also from the servitude to Allah Almighty because Allah Almighty praised the doer of good and rewarded them for it. And benefiting people is from the good. Allah Almighty said:
إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ لِلَّهِ ,نَحْمَدُهُ ,وَنَسْتَعِينُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ , وَنَعُوذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُورِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا ,مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اللهُ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ , وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلَا هَادِيَ لَهُ , وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ
Verily, all praise is for Allah. We praise Him, we seek His assistance and we ask for His forgiveness. And we seek refuge in Him from the evils of our selves. Whoever Allah guides, none can misguide. Whoever He misguides, none can guide. And I bear witness that there is no deity other than Allah and I bear witness that Mohammad is His slave and messenger.
يَا أَيُّهَا الّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلَا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ – آل عمران:102
Al Imran 102 : O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die not except in a state of Islam.
All praise is due to Allah the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful, the Most Generous. He gave His servants graces and dispelled calamities from them. He commanded them to be grateful and warned them from denial and misdeeds. And He promised to recompense them for their deeds. So whoever finds good, let him praise Allah, and whoever finds other than that shall not blame but himself. We praise Allah with the praise of the grateful and we seek His forgiveness with the repentance of the repentant. And we ask Him of His great favor. For He is the Most Generous, Most Merciful, Most Beneficent. Allah elevated whom He willed of His servants and made people need them. So he keeps them in in their positions as long as they benefit others. But if they were to withhold, He would take away their graces and transfer them to someone else. And the Messenger ﷺ urged his community to benefit and do good to others. And he ﷺ stated that the most beloved to Allah Almighty are the most beneficial to the people.
After servitude to Allah, there is nothing with a sweeter taste, more fulfilling and more joyful than striving in serving, benefiting and fulfilling the needs of others. And it is also from the servitude to Allah Almighty because Allah Almighty praised the doer of good and rewarded them for it. And benefiting people is from the good. Allah Almighty said:
وَمَا تَفْعَلُوا مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ بِهِ عَلِيمٌ-الْبَقَرَةِ: 215
Al Baqarah (2) 215: And whatever you do of good – indeed, Allāh is Knowing of it.
And Allah Almighty said:
وَمَا تُقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ مِنْ خَيْرٍ تَجِدُوهُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ هُوَ خَيْرًا وَأَعْظَمَ أَجْرًا-الْمُزَّمِّلِ: 20
Al Muzzamil (73) 20: And whatever good you put forward for yourselves – you will find it with Allāh. It is better and greater in reward.
And the Prophet ﷺ said:
كُلُّ مَعْرُوفٍ صَدَقَةٌ
Every act of goodness is charity. [Bukhari 6021, Muslim 1005]
And Allah, the Most High, rebuked the one who withheld goodness and said in describing the hypocrites:
وَيَقْبِضُونَ أَيْدِيَهُمْ-التَّوْبَةِ: 67
At Tawbah (9) 67: Close their hands (refuse to spend in the way of Allah)
And they were warned of the fire. Allah Almighty said:
أَلْقِيَا فِي جَهَنَّمَ كُلَّ كَفَّارٍ عَنِيدٍ * مَنَّاعٍ لِلْخَيْرِ مُعْتَدٍ مُرِيبٍ-ق: 24-25
Qaff (50) 24-25: (24) [Allāh will say], Throw into Hell every obstinate disbeliever, (25) Preventer of good, aggressor, and doubter,
And the Prophet ﷺ said:
إِنَّ أَهْلَ النَّارِ كُلُّ جَعْظَرِيٍّ جَوَّاظٍ مُسْتَكْبِرٍ، جَمَّاعٍ مَنَّاعٍ
Indeed the people of the fire are every harsh, pompous and arrogant person. Hoarder and withholder. [Ahmad 7010]
And every blessing that Allah Almighty has bestowed upon a person is due a charity and an act of goodness, either obligatory or recommended. For wealth is a blessing and its charity is the mandatory Zakat, the obligatory expenditures and spending in the avenues of good. And influence is a blessing and its charity is advocating for and serving others and reconciling between people. And knowledge is a blessing and its charity is teaching it and spreading it. And the charity for what a person owns is lending it. Even a woman lending her jewelry, clothes for someone to adorn herself at a wedding or function. And Allah Almighty reproached the deniers in that they are:
يُرَاءُونَ * وَيَمْنَعُونَ الْمَاعُونَ-الْمَاعُونِ: 6-7
Al Maoon (107) 6-7: (6) Those who make show [of their deeds] (7) And withhold [simple] assistance.
But many people nullify their acts of goodness. And they do not sense that their acts of goodness have vanished into thin air. And the sweetness of the act of goodness transforms into bitterness. And it changes from an act of goodness into an act of evil. And the person would have been better off had he not performed the act of goodness. He returns sinful and was previously rewarded. And that is Al Mannu Wal Atha as stated in the Quran. That is recounting one’s favors and causing injury. It is prohibited in whatever a person spends of charity or does of acts of goodness. Allah Almighty said:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُمْ بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَى-الْبَقَرَةِ: 264
Al Baqarah (2) 264: O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders [of it] or injury
And that is through reminding the recipient of what he gave by saying, I gave you such and such. And he recounts his bestowals and corrupts them. And injury is reproaching the recipient. For example, he says to the recipient, how much you have asked and how much you have harmed me. And it is said that harm is to mention his spending on the recipient in front of someone that the recipient does not like to associate with. Or saying to the recipient, I have given you and I gave but you were not grateful.
And Allah, the Most High, likened reminding of favors and injury to the actions of a hypocrite. And the common aspect between them is nullifying the deed and the reward vanishing. Allah Almighty said:
لَا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُمْ بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَى كَالَّذِي يُنْفِقُ مَالَهُ رِئَاءَ النَّاسِ وَلَا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ-الْبَقَرَةِ: 264
Al Baqarah (2) 264: O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders [of it] or injury as does one who spends his wealth [only] to be seen by the people and does not believe in Allāh and the Last Day.
That is, if you intended seeking Allah’s pleasure at the start of the matter, reminders of it and injury nullify your deeds. So your deeds become at the same level as someone who does deeds to show off and does not seek Allah’s pleasure and the home of the hereafter.
And the meaning is equating some of the Muslim charity givers who give seeking the reward but conclude their charities with reminders of them and injury with the disbelieving charity givers that spend their wealth only for showing off and praise. For they do not seek the reward of the hereafter.
And it is not permitted to recount the act of goodness except in the case of defending oneself and honor. For you may do good to some people but they slander you and deny your act of goodness and defame you. So you defend yourself by recounting your act of goodness to silence him put him in line. And Uthman, may Allah be pleased with him, did that when the Khawaarej made false accusations about him. So he responded to their accusations by mentioning his acts of goodness. And that is why talking about acts of goodness between people is disliked except in cases when the act of goodness is denied. And due to the ugliness of that, it was said, recounting ruins the act of goodness. And due to the virtue of recounting upon denial it was said, if the favor is denied, its value is enhanced. And from it is the words of Allah Almighty:
يَمُنُّونَ عَلَيْكَ أَنْ أَسْلَمُوا قُلْ لَا تَمُنُّوا عَلَيَّ إِسْلَامَكُمْ بَلِ اللَّهُ يَمُنُّ عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ هَدَاكُمْ لِلْإِيمَانِ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ صَادِقِينَ-الْحُجُرَاتِ: 17
Al Hujurat (49) 17: They consider it a favor to you that they have accepted Islām. Say, Do not consider your Islām a favor to me. Rather, Allāh has conferred favor upon you that He has guided you to the faith, if you should be truthful.
And it is a clear injustice and great loss for someone to do an act of goodness and taste the sweetness of their action and anticipate the reward, then nullify it through recounting his favor and injury. And if he was unscathed, that is neither for him or against him, the matter would be easy. But rather it changes from a sin after it was rewarded. That is because the one recounting his favor is falling into one of the major sins. As Abu Dhar, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet ﷺ said:
ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا يُكَلِّمُهُمُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ: الْمَنَّانُ الَّذِي لَا يُعْطِي شَيْئًا إِلَّا مَنَّهُ، وَالْمُنَفِّقُ سِلْعَتَهُ بِالْحَلِفِ الْفَاجِرِ، وَالْمُسْبِلُ إِزَارَهُ-رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ
There are three whom Allah will not speak to on the Day of Resurrection: the recounter of favors who does not give anything without reminding (the recipient of what he gave), and the one who sells his product by means of false oaths, the one who drags his lower garments below the ankles. [Muslim 106b]
And Ibn Sireen heard a man say to another man: I did you for you and I did such as such. So Ibn Sireen said, be silent for there is no good in an act of goodness if it is recounted. And Al Maawardy, may Allah have mercy on him, said, and know that the act of goodness has conditions without which it cannot be fulfilled or completed. And from that is protecting it from broadcasting that amplifies it and concealing it from a rumor that draw attentions to it. And from the conditions of the act of goodness is minimizing it so that he does not see it as a big thing. And downplaying it so it does not become exaggerated. So that it does not become a spoiled vanity and an exaggerated centerpiece. And Al Abbas bin Abdul Mutalib, may Allah be pleased with him, said, the act of goodness is not completed without three qualities; hastening, minimizing and concealing it. For if you hastened it you facilitated it, and if you minimized it you magnified it, and if you concealed it you completed it.
أَقُولُ مَا تَسْمَعُونَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ لِي وَلَكُمْ مِنْ كُلِّ ذَنْبٍ فَاسْتَغْفِرُوهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ الغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
I say what you have heard and I seek forgiveness from Allah for me and you from every sin. So seek forgives from Him, Verily He is Oft-Forgiving, the Most Merciful.
الحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ, وَالصَّلَاةُ وَالسَّلَامُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ , وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَاْ إِلَهَ إِلَّاْ اَللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَاْشَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدَاً عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ
All praise is to Allah, and peace and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah, and I bear witness that there is no deity other than Allah and I bear witness that Mohammad is His slave and messenger.
And if the recounter of favors thinks about his condition, he would realize that he is taking credit for something that he did not do and adorning himself with ugliness. That is because him performing the act of goodness is a guidance from Allah. And his ability to benefit people is a bestowal from Allah Almighty. For He is the One Who elevates him and He is the One Who demotes. And if he understood that, he would know that the favor is from Allah – the Most High – alone.
And the people who recount their favors and injure have various ways and methods of delivering the message of reminding. Some of them are frank and clear, enumerating in each gathering what they did for so-and-so. And some of them continue in their reminding and harm and do not stop. For if he steps in to help a student in his studies, he asks about his academic level every time that he sees him. And he does not really care and he only wants to remind him or his father that it was he who helped him. And if he gets involved to help someone get a job, he asks him on every occasion about his promotions and boss. And reminding is the only thing that he wants through that. And the people of knowledge are not immune from that. For if he taught a student, he reminds him that he taught him every time that he sees him. Especially if the student exceled and has attained knowledge, prestige, or wealth. And the ploys of those recounting favors have no end. And the wise are those who combat this devastating disease. For it is a wide entry point for satan. Through it, he corrupts the deeds. Abdul Rahman bin Zaid bin Aslam said, my father used to say, if you give someone something and then you sense that your greeting has become a burden for him, then stop greeting him.
And the scholars have stated that it is not befitting to ask the person receiving the favor for a supplication. And he should not expect his praise. Because perhaps it will be the price for his act of goodness and his reward will be dropped. If someone supplicates without being asked then one should respond by supplicating for him. And if he offers praise, then one should respond by attributing the favor to Allah Almighty. And when Musa, peace be upon him, watered the flocks of the two girls, he did not wait for praise, gratitude, supplication or a reward even though he was in need of food to diminish his hunger and a place to shelter him at night. Rather he supplicated his Lord the Exalted:
فَسَقَى لَهُمَا ثُمَّ تَوَلَّى إِلَى الظِّلِّ فَقَالَ رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ-الْقَصَصِ: 24
Al Qassas (28) 24: So he watered [their flocks] for them; then he went back to the shade and said, My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need.
We ask Allah Almighty to guide us to the best and most perfect character and to turn us away from bad and evil morals. Indeed Allah is All Hearing, Answering.
هَذَا وَصَلُّوا وَسَلِّمُوا عَلَى نَبِيِّكُم كَمَا أَمَرَكُمْ بِذلِكَ رَبُّكُمْ , فَقَالَ
I conclude with this and send prayers of blessings and peace upon your Prophet as your Lord commanded:
إِنَّ اللَّهَ وَمَلَائِكَتَهُ يُصَلُّونَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ۚ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا صَلُّوا عَلَيْهِ وَسَلِّمُوا تَسْلِيمًا
Al Ahzaab (33) 56: Indeed, Allah confers blessing upon the Prophet, and His angels [ask Him to do so]. O you who have believed, ask [ Allah to confer] blessing upon him and ask [ Allah to grant him] peace.
اللَّهُمَّ اهْدِنا فِيمَنْ هَدَيْتَ وَعَافِنا فِيمَنْ عَافَيْتَ وَتَوَلَّنا فِيمَنْ تَوَلَّيْتَ وَبَارِكْ لنا فِيمَا أَعْطَيْتَ وَقِنا شَرَّ مَا قَضَيْتَ إِنَّكَ تَقْضِي وَلاَ يُقْضَى عَلَيْكَ وَإِنَّهُ لاَ يَذِلُّ مَنْ وَالَيْتَ تَبَارَكْتَ رَبَّنَا وَتَعَالَيْتَ
O Allah, guide us with those whom You have guided, grant us well-being among those You have granted well-being, be an ally to us along with those whom You are an ally to, and bless what You have bestowed upon us, and save us from the evil of what You have decreed. For verily You decree and none can decree over You. He whom You support can never be humiliated. Glory is to You, our Lord, You are Blessed and Exalted.
اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّا نَسْأَلُكَ مِنَ الْخَيْرِ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْنا مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ نَعْلَمْ وَنَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الشَّرِّ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْنا مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ نَعْلَمْ اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّا نَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا سَأَلَكَ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ وَنَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا عَاذَ بِهِ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ اللَّهُمَّ إِنَّا نَسْأَلُكَ الْجَنَّةَ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَنَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَنَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَجْعَلَ كُلَّ قَضَاءٍ قَضَيْتَهُ لَنا خَيْرًا
O Allah, We ask You for all that is good, in this world and in the Hereafter, what we know and what we do not know. O Allah, we seek refuge with You from all evil, in this world and in the Hereafter, what we know and what we do not know. O Allah, we ask You for the good that Your servant and Prophet has asked You for, and we seek refuge with You from the evil from which Your servant and Prophet sought refuge. O Allah, we ask You for Paradise and for that which brings one closer to it, in word and deed, and we seek refuge in You from Hell and from that which brings one closer to it, in word and deed. And we ask You to make every decree that You decree concerning us good
عِبَادَ اللّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ وَالْبَغْيِ يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ
Servants of Allah. Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
اُذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ الْعَظِيمَ يَذْكُرْكُمْ واشْكُرُوهُ يَزِدْكُمْ واسْتَغْفِرُوهُ يَغْفِرْ لكُمْ واتّقُوهُ يَجْعَلْ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَمْرِكُمْ مَخْرَجًا وَأَقِمِ الصّلَاة
Remember Allah, the Great – He will remember you. Thank Him for His favors – He will increase you therein. And seek forgiveness from Him – He will forgive you. And be conscious of Him – He will provide you a way out of difficult matters. And, establish the prayer.
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